I’m grappling with a situation that’s tearing me up inside, and I honestly don’t know who to turn to or what to do next. My best friend, “Rachel,” and I have been like sisters for the past 20 years. We’ve been through it all together—from high school dramas to family crises—and now, as I prepare for my wedding, she’s right there with me, sharing in the excitement. My fiancé, “Tom,” and I have been together for three years, and he’s always been nothing but supportive of my friendship with Rachel. Until now, I trusted both of them completely.

But a few weeks ago, something happened that I can’t seem to move past. The three of us had gone out for a night on the town, and afterward, we all went back to my apartment. I was exhausted and headed to bed early, leaving Rachel and Tom in the living room watching a movie. Not long after, Tom came into the bedroom, visibly upset. He told me that Rachel had leaned in and tried to kiss him. He said he pulled away immediately, and Rachel quickly apologized, blaming it on the alcohol.

Since that night, I’ve felt nothing but confusion and hurt. If Tom’s story is accurate, then Rachel, the person I’ve trusted most for decades, made a move on my fiancé. But if I confront her and it turns out it wasn’t as serious as I’m imagining, I could ruin our friendship forever. I keep asking myself if I should give her the benefit of the doubt, but part of me also wonders if I need to distance myself from her to protect my relationship with Tom. I find myself replaying that night repeatedly, wondering if there were signs I missed that Rachel may have had feelings for him all along.

Since then, Rachel’s behavior around me has been noticeably different. She’s been giving me short, almost clipped answers, with nervous laughter and avoiding eye contact. She hasn’t mentioned that night at all, and neither has Tom. I want to bring it up with her, but every time I try, I freeze, afraid of what I might hear. If she admits it was intentional, I don’t know if I’d be able to forgive her. But if she denies it, I might always wonder if she’s hiding something.

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The stress of planning the wedding on top of this isn’t helping either. Rachel has always been the friend I imagined standing by my side on my big day. Now, I can’t shake this nagging feeling that something critical is being overlooked, and it’s making it difficult to feel excited about the wedding. I keep wondering if there’s a way to move forward without having this conversation with her, but the feeling of betrayal won’t go away. It’s left me stuck in a place of indecision, and I feel torn between protecting my relationship with Tom and preserving my friendship with Rachel.

I know I need to talk to her. But I’m scared of the outcome. If I confront her and she denies it, I could be left with more doubts and unresolved tension between us. On the other hand, if she admits she does have feelings for Tom, I’m worried it will change everything—not just our friendship but the way I feel about her and our shared history. I also wonder what this might mean for Tom and me. He’s been supportive and reassuring, but I can’t help but feel the strain this has put on our relationship as well.

At the end of the day, I want to be able to look back on my wedding day without feeling like I left something unresolved. I want to feel confident in the people around me, especially someone as close as Rachel. But every time I think about having this conversation with her, my heart races. I’m torn between the fear of losing my best friend and the need for honesty. Do I confront her and risk our friendship, or do I let it go and try to move on for the sake of both my relationship with Tom and the friendship I’ve cherished for so long?

Judy, I feel completely lost. I don’t want to lose Rachel, but I also don’t want to ignore this feeling in my gut that something isn’t right. I keep telling myself that maybe, if I give it time, things will go back to normal, but that might just be wishful thinking. I’m afraid of making the wrong choice and ending up without my best friend—or worse, putting my relationship at risk. Should I confront Rachel and get the truth, or let it go and hope the friendship can heal on its own?

This version captures the original story’s emotional weight and complexity, making it relatable for an American audience.